I saw this quote on Instragram today, and it made me think. People post a lot of quotes on Instragram to try to express their feelings, or to try to get other people to think. This one made me think. I truly feel like everything I do in life is with good intentions. I do not do people favors and expect anything in return. I don’t do things for my husband so he can do something for me back. It is just out of love. My kids are first and I do not have much time to be there for the people I used to, and the ones that know me and love me understand that. I feel like doing things for people, whether it be favors, or giving somebody a gift, and then throwing it in their face later or claiming they did not get the same in return from that person, means you are not giving selflessly.
This is a hard thing to do in marriage especially. You expect so much from this person you vowed to share everything with. You are spending the rest of your days with this one person and you want them to give you everything you have ever wanted in life. Well, this is not realistic. I admit I find myself doing the same thing. “My hubby didn’t do A for me today so why should I do B for him when he asks me?” Putting so many expectations on somebody is not healthy, and yes you will be disappointed in the end because this person did not know they had to meet all of these expectations of yours when they married you! We just want to be loved for who we are, and appreciated for the things we DO do, not for the things we are coming up short on. It is hard to do it all in one day, but it’s easy to pick out the things we didn’t do. You may walk into my house and see a sink full of dirty dishes. But my kids are clean, happy, fed. That dirty sink is full of dishes I used to cook my kids a home cooked meal. Something I strive to do every day for them. Being a mother has taught me selflessness. I give give give for them all day long and expect nothing in return. It just makes me feel good to see the smile on their faces from the love I give them, that is thanks enough.
My Dad is a great example of this. He has given so selflessly to me all his life. I have never expected these things from him, nor do I feel entitled to all of his help. He worked he arse off all his life so my mom and siblings could have a good life. And now in my adulthood, he still does everything he can to be there for me when I need him. There is no one like a girl’s Daddy. I am so blessed I found a man of my own to be that for my daughters, because it has molded me into the woman I am today to have that.
I guess the moral of this is, give selflessly. If you are doing things maliciously or just to use as ammo later on..you are not doing it for the right reason. And don’t expect so many things from people, graciously accept what they give you. We are all just doing the best we can. Have a good weekend everyone 🙂 <3